What to Do if Your Husband Doesn't Want Sex

It's a topic that is not often talked about. A topic that brings with it a lot of shame and guilt.

Agree, jokes about wives always suffering from headaches are much more common than jokes about husbands refusing to have intimate relations with their wives. However, the internet tells us that a lack of sex in marriage is one of the most popular questions asked by women. Women can ask their "shameful" question "why doesn't my husband want me?" only to a search engine or a very, very close, tactful, understanding friend, who may also suffer from the same issue and doesn't know the answer. A woman often faces this problem alone, sometimes destroying herself with thoughts like "what's wrong with me?" or "it's my fault."

Stereotypical behavior tells us that a man should always want his woman, everywhere and at any time, and if he doesn't, then she's crooked, fat, flat, and any other negative characteristic. But this isn't true. Such thoughts only exacerbate the situation and stem from the severe external pressure society places on women.

Today, mass culture tells us that sex is the foundation of a relationship between a man and a woman, and the key figure in it is the woman. She is the "neck that turns the head," the "weather in the house," and so on. What you need to understand is that you love your husband and want intimacy with him. If, in every other aspect, your relationship is trusting, warm, and friendly, the issue should be solved with a constructive conversation. Not with accusations, hurt, silence, or arguments, but with a conversation. Close the article "10 reasons why my husband doesn't want me" and go talk to your husband, because living in anxiety is ineffective and harmful to your health. "I love you and want to have sex with you, I really miss it." You may hear in response, "I love you too, I don't know what's wrong, let's work on this problem together."

Sometimes one partner's desire to have sex fades, while the other partner still feels the need. And this is a problem that can only be understood and solved by examining each situation individually. Although, there should also be an understanding that no one has ever died from a lack of sex, and then the problem won’t seem so frightening, making it easier to find a solution. Ask, "What do you want?"

A friend of mine shared a case that helped a married couple. His girlfriend told him that there was almost no intimacy with her husband because "he doesn’t want it." At that moment, they were passing by an adult store, and he almost dragged her inside. She was initially shy, but then disappeared into the depths of the store, and after some time, he found her at the cash register with a purchase. From that evening on, the couple's sex life was restored. She never told him what she bought, but it seems she figured out her husband's sexual desire. Sometimes problems can be solved just that simply. In this case, even a constructive conversation wasn't necessary.